How to stop your husband from going hunting did not come out of my mouth however, someone did type this in google and reached my site.
My immediate reaction was I could never imagine thinking this, feeling this and then searching this. I understand that everyone’s situation is different. There are some women that just like having their husbands around, maybe they have kids at home and it’s difficult when their husband is gone or maybe it has something to do with trust. Whatever their reason, it was important enough to search.
Then I received this comment on my post about things to do while your husband is hunting.
this list is so stupid, well things on it that make it easier for the lazy hubby to find the tv remote when they come home after a nice day away from home in the wooods w/nature! lazy husbands suck!!!!!!!!! poster you need to post a TO DO LIST FOR the wives when 4 when (the HUBBY’s) come home! PLZE get up to date in your time………..
I can only share with you the things that I do while my husband is hunting. What person loves to clean? Not many but it has to get done and for me that is the perfect time. As for a list for my husband when he gets home after enjoying himself in the woods, he’s a grown man and knows what needs to be done. We don’t have list’s for eachother. We don’t tell eachother what needs to get done nor when. I think in both situations there is something much deeper going on than just a problem with deer hunting and I would like to address this next week in a post.
I’m not speaking for other wives, I can only speak for me. I’m sure there are lazy husbands out there but my husband isn’t one of them. He helps around the house with cleaning, laundry, dishes and cooking without being asked. He works a 40+ hour week, takes care of the house, yard and anything else that needs his attention. He isn’t one to sit down and enjoy himself all that much. So when hunting season approaches I have no problem with him taking time to do what he enjoys. He deserves it.
As for me getting up to date in my time – or the times. If you’re a regular reader here you will understand the following …
After spending a long day cleaning and making my home sparkle for my husband, I will await his arrival home after a long day at the office while I sit here in my June Cleaver dress and pearls. I’ll be sure to take his shoes off for him, light his cigar, have his 4 course meal on the table and a homemade apple pie.
Oh heavens, I forgot to iron my apron.
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That is one interesting comment that they left. Sounds like this lady might be stuck in 1954.
I help around the house, do the laundry, do the dishes, and whatever else has to be done as well, so if I want to take off and go hunting for a day that is my choice….and one my wife supports I might add.
I think your commenter needs to get with the times:):):):)
You do wear a dress with white gloves and heels to clean in right? I think your reader may have their thoughts confused.. When my hunter comes home, if my house is clean and things are arranged..then that makes some time for US..!! It is quite possible that someone may not be in a very happy relationship?? just saying~
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We don’t tell each what to do around here and much like you said, we are adults and know what needs to be done. I’m a grown-up and don’t want to be parented anymore. If anyone tried to tell me what to do then I will rebel and never do it, so I don’t boss and don’t want to be bossed.
If I notice something that needs to be done, I either do it myself or keep my mouth shut. It all works out in the end.
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I’ll never understand women who think they are their hubby’s momma – not his wife.
As for what we do when hubby gets home from a weekend of hunting – well, that is none of anybody’s business… like marky says – it’s some time for us
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Geez…..my husband and I have been married nearly 30 years…we would have never lasted this long if it wasn’t a partnership. We both have always worked full time he has his resposibilities around the house and I have mine.
Likewise, I have interests outside of the house and so does he.
Sure there are times when it may be a little one sided, but the scale tips both ways.
And I like to wait on him occasionally…but when he surprises me with flowers on Sundays, just because…it reminds me why I like to do that.
It sounds like your commentor doesn’t have a husband who hunts, or is a man who isn’t a hunter.
My husband isn’t lazy either and also helps me out around the house. Sometimes he comes in and just starts cleaning. Talk about feeling lazy when that happens.
Don’t change a thing about your site or your list. There are always going to be naysayers.
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There are definitely deeper issues at work inside that commenter’s head. Healthy relationships are about both teamwork and compromise. And healthy relationships allow room for separate hobbies and interests. It’s all part of the dynamics of human relationships.
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Love how you end this post, Jody – made me laugh! As others have said – no need to change anything here – and judging from how you end this post, that thought never entered your mind anyways!
I’ll second what Blessed said and leave it at that.
I hope this woman reads these comments. After the talk we had today about other things, her comments really irritated me! What is with these people. She obviously has time on her hands in order to search the web. I want to punch her in her eye! Keep on posting your thoughts. After all, THEY ARE YOURS!!! She doesn’t have to like it. Geez!
Wow, what an incoherent comment that person left!
And I guess the person who searched for how to stop your husband from hunting is probably married to the troglodyte who hunts to get away from his wife…
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I think it all boils down to one word, balance. We each do our part to make sure everything gets done – and when it does – I go hunting, she goes shopping. Its what makes us both happy in our individual ways. Later we reconnect and do something together. Its not rocket science…
You know what I LOVE about when my husband leaves to hunt (like now) – I clean AND my house actually STAYS clean! I don’t have to worry about what to cook for dinner (dd and I had cereal last night LOL) and I can go shopping and not worry about what time I need to be home!
Do I miss him? sure! but I LOVE me some alone time too!!! After all, it’s worked this was for over 22 years now!!
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So what is wrong with me? Married for over 20 years… We love eachother alot. Many times we are best friends. When we were married, we were best friends for sure. We were ALWAYS together. We loved to do everything together. I look for ways to get the family together to do things; it’s hard with the kids growing up; everyone goes in different directions. My heart is for us to be together. He’s often going to the store with a kid or alone; I’m often going my own direction; responsibilites of one kind or another; and then some exercise.
So if he goes away for a one day hunt; after he’s waited all year — well that’s just not enough! He gets his kill to quickly and I feel bad for him; thinking we all need to go hunting with him to stretch this thing out. But now that he’s away on his elk hunt, away for five days now; I barely hear from him at all, finally on this day; on this afternoon, I’m getting angry. Hurt. Hurt that out of so little vacation that he has, he chooses to go sit in a tree and hike in the woods with some other guy!
It makes me angry – obviously I’m jealous; for myself and my family. But – I’ve been busy all week; I have yet more responsibilities tonight… If he were home I couldn’t even but exchange words with him this evening.
So why am I so upset?
clarification — we are married.
Wow. I’ve disagreed with everything everyone said. I’ve respected it, but I’ve disagreed nonetheless. My husband is always hunting. Her isn’t lazy and for the most part a great husband and amazing dad.. I just don’t get breaks like he does. He has softball, poker games with friends, fantasy football and hunting! I get out once a year (for 4 days). I’m not into sports so its not like I blame him for being involved in them, it just seems one sided. And I want him home. Most times when he gets home (always late and way after dark), he plops down and watches football and eats the dinner I made. Um excuuuuse meee?! I love him, but I hate his priorities..
waste of my time!
That’s all fine and dandy….my husband is very hard working, he does help with the housework, the laundry the yard etc. etc. However, I have a full time job also, I do dishes, cook, clean, laundry, etc. etc. but if I also rewarded myself with constant out of town weekends and 4-5 week long hunting trips CPS would take my unattended children because no one would be around to be a parent. I also am hardworking, make a very good salary…equivalent to my husbands…I haven’t had a vacation in 3 years!!!! Let’s wake up dad’s and smell the coffee….you can hunt when your kids are grown!!!!
But let’s get real…we are all wives writing and reading this so it’s not really going to matter is it.
Just got home from my first elk hunting trip with my amazing husband. This trip was a special gift from me to him… He loves to elk hunt, I love him, and he loves me… It was very special. Hunting pressure had already pushed the animals out, but we had an awesome time hiking miles through forests and I learned so much. We laughed and smiles, sometimes held hands… My stealthy awesome hunter is a great man, I sure love him. What a special time!
Well I have had it with hunting!!! I have always hated it ( I saw BAMBI at a young age) I was never around it as a kid. When my husband and I were dating he didnt go very much..at that time I was more important,,Now that Im exposed to it and married to a killer..I HATE IT..I dont like how they entice deer with deer pee and or food..its not a fair sport…what does the deer have for protection?? or a weapon???and what kind of “sport” is it anyway??? all they do is sit in a tree for 12 to 16 hours and you know they are sleeping…they are all a bunch fat lazy men in my opinion…my husband included!!! I get so sick of sitting home cooking, cleaning and chasing a 2 year old around…when he does get home he is soo tired he just falls asleep in front of the tv,,,the other night, he actually asked me the change the babys diaper….What??? get out of your ^#&%%(* tree and help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! PS we have a freezer full of deer meat…nobody eats it…im not cooking it and God forbid he cooks anything….And any woman out there that likes hunting is a dike!!!
I have 4 children at home and a husband that thinks he is entitled to week long out of state hunting trips. He is a great man and wonderful father but I think this is selfish. I work full time and never get a moment to myself. It is extremely hard when he goes hunting. I am already stretched thin. I love him and want him to have time to himself but it is just too hard for one person to manage. I am extremely jealous of the double standard. I would not dream of thinking it is okay to leave him to work and deal with 4 young children so that I could go do something I enjoy for a week. He does it quiet a few times a year and it is accepted.
It can be selfish; but it doesn’t have to be… Leave the kids with grandma and go hunting with the man. Make him the best food and be his woman out there, do a good job and he may never want another hunting partner, except only you. It’s a make it or break it thing, make a choice and give.
To the other woman, you’re complaining about changing a baby’s diaper, are you kidding me? Are you so selfish that rather than lovingly take care of your child, you’re concerned about who is going to lift their arm to do the work? How outrageously selfish.
Not all hunters are fat and lazy sloths. Encourage your hunter to become a bowman… Might make him get fit, mine is extremely fit.
You can make hunting an opportunity for romance — or an opportunity to wine and complain.
Susie sounds like a submissive idiot!! oh come on…what woman in her right mind would want to sit in a tree just to make a man happy?????? as for a making a good meal, he can stay home and eat it with his family,,,why would you tell someone to leave their kids with their grandmother??? Im sure the kids would rather be home…what about school…and what the hell is sooo romantic about murdering a deer??? what so you cand gut it together>???? GROSS!! shut up susie!! be a real woman and stop chasing after a man who dont want to be around you..
oh yeah submissive susie, about the diaper thing,,…..when is it soley a womans job to clean up shit???
all I have to say is ’sick of hunting’ you hit the nail RIGHT on the head..totally agree with you